Never Look Back

Once and for all, this is how you get over a guy.

Very often we don’t know half of the details about the people that we admire; their faults, their flaws, and all of the things that made them difficult to be around.

We don’t see those things, and as a result we go out looking for a perfect person who doesn’t exist.

The concept we have of ‘the one’ is one of the most destructive beliefs we can have.

I’m one of the most romantic people you will ever come across, and here’s how I can say this and hold that view of myself.

What the concept of ‘the one’ assumes is that when you meet someone, they’re already ‘the one’.

Here’s the problem: what if ‘the one’ doesn’t want you? Then what happens? Are you going to stay single for eternity because ‘the one’ doesn’t want you?

I believe we can meet people who have a lot of things we like, and that by what they do, they can becomes ‘the one’.

Someone only becomes ‘the one’ when you meet and decide to go on a journey of growth together in building a relationship. They become ‘the one’ by what they do, but they don’t start there.

This is a much more powerful mindset to have, because now we don’t have to mourn the loss of people who don’t work out.

A part of your criteria for the person that you want to be with should be, ‘this person has to adore me’. Someone can’t become ‘the one’ unless they adore you, and so if they don’t, they’re not ‘the one’.

You might be attracted, you might like certain things about someone, but you don’t have to mourn the loss of the love of your life.

In doing this we get a better quality definition of the person we’re looking for, and so I urge you to come up with a list of criteria that you have for this person so that you can be more certain in your judgement of people.

In the later stages of my online programme I have a module titled ‘Removing The Negative Thoughts That Hold Us back’. This is a continuation of looking at the beliefs we have that are sabotaging our success. It doesn’t matter how many techniques we learn, we can always sabotage a good thing if our head isn’t in the right place.