From Casual To Committed

Here’s a snippet of one of the bonuses taken from my online programme. This is an interview with a guy who has on his resume being voted as the ‘#1 ‘Pickup Artist’ In The World’, a guy who is OBSESSED with anything to do with psychology, human nature, and attraction, and through his research and thousands of hours of coaching guys to become more confident with women, has become one of the world’s leading authorities in the area of dating and relationships.

His name is Adam Lyons, a hard-core player who has completely changed his mind-set on commitment. And here’s his take on how you can do the same and shift a guy’s mind-set towards a relationship.

Q: If you’re trapped in the ‘limbo period’ between dating and where you feel there should be a relationship, what can you do to get a guy to lean towards a relationship? How can you start to put commitment in his mind as an idea so that he starts taking steps forward?

A: There was a study conducted by Dr. Helen Fisher about the fear of commitment in men.

What’s fascinating is that men have been shown to be more likely to want commitment. Match.com conducted a survey of singletons and found that men are more likely than women to fall in love at first sight, men are more likely to want to start a family, and they are also more likely to want to start a relationship with somebody who is a different religion or ethnicity of their own.

In this survey, on the whole it was women who wanted their own bank accounts, their own personal space, and their own vacations more than guys. We’ve seen things change to the point where nowadays men are a lot more likely to want commitment. If you’ve got a situation where you’re with a guy and he’s not committing to you, the truth is, it’s not that he doesn’t want commitment, (and this is horrible to have to say), he doesn’t want to have commitment with you.

My favourite analogy to illustrate this is to imagine holding out your hand and having a butterfly landing in it. If you close your hands around it to trap the butterfly, all it’s going to want to do is escape. The minute you get a crack in your hand, it will squeeze through and escape.

If you leave your hand flat, eventually the butterfly will just move on. But if you curve hand slightly, and raise your other hand against the wind to shelter it, it will witness the value of who you are, it will see the benefit of staying in your hand, and it will stay for the longest period of time.

Deconstructing this analogy, there are three types of women here. The woman who smothers guys, the woman who completely ignores someone, and finally the woman who has true value, who shelters him from the wind. The last is the one he’s going to want to commit to.

This study has shown that men do want commitment, it’s just that they’re looking for the right kind of person.

You need to strike the right balance and actually add value to his life, and encourages him to do what he wants.

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